Switching from texting to video calling is the most important step in modern dating. It is the moment where a “match” becomes a real person. But many people get stuck here. They know how to text, but they don’t know how to build romantic chemistry on camera.
The truth is, the people who find love online aren’t just lucky. They know how to use video calls to create a spark that lasts. It’s not about looking perfect; it’s about creating an emotional connection.
If you want to stop getting ghosted and start building a genuine relationship, here is exactly how to handle your first video date like a pro.
Lighting is 90% of attraction
You don’t need a professional studio, but you do need to look inviting. The biggest mistake singles make is sitting with a bright window behind them, which turns their face into a dark silhouette.
The fix is simple: face the light. Put your phone or laptop between you and the window (or lamp). Soft, front-facing light smooths out your skin and makes your eyes sparkle. It immediately signals that you are open, confident, and ready to connect.
The “emotional” opener
The death of any potential relationship is small talk. “Hey, how are you?” leads to a boring conversation. If you start boring, the romance dies instantly.
Instead, start with energy and emotion. If you are on apps like OmeTV or Bumble, ask a question that reveals personality, like “What is the best thing that happened to you this week?” or “What are you most passionate about right now?” This forces a real answer and builds a bridge between you two immediately.
Leave them wanting more
This is the secret weapon of successful dating. Do not let the first video call drag on for an hour until you run out of things to say.
Ideally, your first date should be high-energy but short—maybe 10 to 15 minutes. End the call while you are both laughing and having fun. Say something like, “I’ve got to run, but I really loved connecting with you.” This builds anticipation and drastically increases the chances of a second date (and eventually, meeting in person).
Practice makes perfect
The only way to get comfortable with dating on camera is to do it. You need a low-stakes environment to practice your lighting, your openers, and your flirting skills.
The apps we recommend are perfect for this because they connect you instantly. You can practice with new people until you feel ready for the real thing.
Ready to find your match? We’ve collected the best apps to start your journey.